吃菜最不該扔的四大寶 (The four tresures of food that shouldn't be wasted when eating)

食用某些食物時，有些看似應該丟棄的部分，其實營養價值可能還大于食物本身，看看您是不是不小心把它們放棄了。
When eating certain food, there are certain parts which seemingly are useless and should be thrown away. In reality, their nutritional value could be higher than the food itself. Check if you have unknowingly wasted these.

1. 魚眼 Fish Eyes
魚的眼睛，特別是金槍魚科的鮪魚眼珠，含有相當豐富的二十二碳六烯酸（DHA）和二十碳五烯酸（EPA）等難得的不飽和脂肪酸，這種天然物質最大的補益效用是能夠激活人的腦部細胞，增強大腦記憶力和思維能力，對防止記憶力衰退、膽固醇增高、高血壓等多種疾病大有裨益。食一物補一物，臨床實驗也證明，魚眼還能改善視力減退等症狀。

Fish eyes, especially mackeral family, contains rich quantity of DHA and EPA which are very rare unsaturated fatty acid. The most beneficial property of these natural substances are their abilities to stimulate human brain cells, improve memory and thinking power, and also very helpful in preventing memory decline, high cholesteral and hypertemsion diseases. The common notion suggested that eating certain animal parts would strengthen similar body parts of ours, and this has also be proven correct by clinical experiment where fish eyes are concerned: They can help to reduce the deterioration of eyesight.

2. 橘絡 Fibres of orange or grapefruit peels

吃橘子時，千萬別在剝去橘皮之後，將橘瓣外表的白色經絡扯得一幹二淨。其實，橘絡中含有一種名為'路丁'的維生素，能使人的血管保持正常彈性和密度，減少血管壁的脆性和滲透性，防止毛細血管滲血，高血壓病人發生腦溢血及糖尿病人發生視網膜出血。對于平時有出血傾向的人，特別是有血管硬化傾向的老人，食用橘絡更有益處。

When eating oranges or grapefruits, after removing the peels, do not remove all the fibres that stuck on the fruits. In fact, the fibres contained certain vitamin known as 路丁 [(English term?)], which helps to maintain the elasticity and density of the artery wall, which in turn reduces the danger of bleeding especially the fine arteries. Hypertension patients usually have problem of brain haemorage while diabetic patients retina haemorage. For people with tendency to bleed, especially old people with tendency of artery hardening, eating fibres of oranges and frapefruit peels is particularly helpful.

3. 肉骨頭 Bones

肉骨頭的營養比肉更勝一籌，將豬骨與鮮豬肉的營養成分作比較，其蛋白質、鐵質、鈉和產生的能量都遠遠高于鮮肉，蛋白質高出奶粉23%，高出牛肉61%，是豬肉的兩倍，是雞蛋的一倍多。它含有大量人體必需的營養素，如大腦所不可缺少的磷脂質、磷蛋白，促進肝功能的蛋氨酸、氨基酸、維生素A、維生素B1、B2等；還含有大量防止老化的類粘朊和骨膠元。尤其難得的是，熬湯後，它的營養成分比植物性食品更易為人體所吸收。

The nutritional value of bones are higher than that of the meat. Comparing the nutritional values of Pork bones and pork, the bones contain far more protein, iron, sodium and calories than meat. Bones contain 23% more protein than milk powder, 61% more than beef, three time as much as pork and more than double that of eggs. It has abundance of essential minerals that human requires, like 磷脂質 that are needed by the brain, 磷蛋白, 蛋氨酸 for the liver, 氨基酸, vitamins A, B1 and B2, as well as 類粘朊 and 骨膠元 [bone gels?] that are useful for slowing the aging. The best part is, when boiled in soup, its nutritions become more readily absorbed by human body than plant-based food.

4. 辣椒葉 chili leaves

辣椒葉蛋白氨基酸種類齊全，總含量高出辣椒果實近3倍。其中有防癌作用的元素硒，辣椒葉中的含量也高于辣椒果實近1倍。並且辣椒葉還含有豐富的鈣質、胡蘿卜素，多種維生素和其他營養物質。適量吃辣椒葉能促進胃液分泌，增進食欲，適用于消化不良、腸胃脹氣、胃寒痛等症。常食辣椒葉還能起到驅寒暖胃、補肝明目、減肥美容的作用。辣椒葉味道甘甜鮮嫩，口感很好。既可單獨做菜，也可與肉類同炒，還可煮湯。

Chili leaves contains complete range of 蛋白氨基酸 [amino acid ?]. almost 4 times compared to the chili fruits. It also contains more than double what chili fruits have of 元素硒 , which are anti-cancerous substance. On top of that, chili leaves are rich in calcium, beta carotene, various vitamins and other nutrients. Eating a suitable quantity of chili leaves enhances secreation of digestive juices, improves appetite and are good for indigestions, gastric and stomach discomfort. Regular intake of chili leaves also help in warming body, strengthen liver, improve eyesight, reduce weight and improve beauty. Chili leaves is tasty and can either be cooked alone, frying with meat or making soup.

值得參考的文章 ~ 常喝綠豆湯、海帶

專作放射線之醫師，認為『微波爐』 會利用電波少一個正價電子，運用水分子之震盪使食物變熱，所以食物易變成自由基，就會容易致癌。所以偶而方便用一下，最好還是少用『微波爐』最好！

人體內的有毒物質主要來源於兩個途徑：一是大氣與水源中的污染物、通過呼吸及進餐而侵入人體內，鉛、鋁、汞等重金屬就是其代表；另一個是食物在體內代謝後的廢物，如自由基、硫化氫等。時下，清除體內垃圾已成健康時尚。

下列方法可幫您及時清除體內毒素。

1. 主動咳嗽法：自然界中的粉塵、金屬微粒及廢氣中的毒性物質， 通過呼吸進入肺臟，既損害肺臟，又通過血液迴圈而 '株連' 全身。借助主動咳嗽可以' 清掃 ' 肺臟。每天到室外空氣清新處做深呼吸運動， 深吸氣時緩緩抬起雙臂，然後主動咳嗽， 使氣流從口、鼻中噴出，咳出痰液。

2. 飲水沖洗法：定時排便，縮短糞便在腸道內的停留時間，及時排出糞便中的毒素。每天清晨空腹喝一杯溫開水，有利於大便通暢以及毒素從尿液中排出。

3. 運動出汗法：皮膚也是排泄毒素的途徑, 主要通過出汗的方式，讓毒素隨汗液排出體外。

4. 巧用食物法：
●常飲鮮果、鮮菜汁 ( 不經炒煮 ) ，鮮果、鮮菜汁是體內 ' 清潔劑 ' ，牠們能排除體內堆積的毒素和廢物。

●常吃海帶，海帶對放射性物質有特別的親和力，海帶膠質能促使體內的放射性物質隨著大號排出體外，從而減少放射性物質在人體內的積聚，也減少了放射性疾病的發生率。

● 常喝綠豆湯，綠豆湯能輔助排泄體內的毒素，促進機體的正常代謝。

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白领饮食十大夺命恶习 - Part 2

夺命恶习6：餐后吸烟
夺命理由：使烟中的有害物质更易进入人体。
饭后吸一支烟，中毒量大于平时吸十支烟的总和。因为人在吃饭以后，胃肠蠕动加强，血液循环加快，这时人体吸收烟雾的能力进入"最佳状态"，烟中的有毒物质比平时更容易进入人体，从而更加重了对人体健康的损害程度。
见招拆招：全面禁烟。

夺命恶习7：保温杯泡茶
夺命理由：破坏维生素，大量渗出鞣酸和茶碱。
茶叶中含有大量的鞣酸、茶碱、茶香油和多种维生素，用80℃左右的水冲泡比较适宜，如果用保温杯长时间把茶叶浸泡在高温的水中，就如同用微水煎煮一样，会使茶叶中的维生素全遭破坏，茶香油大量挥发，鞣酸、茶碱大量渗出。这样不仅降低了茶叶的营养价值，减少了茶香，还使有害物质增多。
见招拆招：换杯子。

夺命恶习8：宴席不离生食
夺命理由：导致各种寄生虫病。
三文鱼、象拔蚌、鲈鱼、乌鱼、生鱼片、蛇、龟、蟹等办公室一族商务宴请时的首选食物中，存在寄生虫和致病菌的几率很高，再加上厨师们为了追求味道的鲜美，烹调往往不够充分，很容易让你在大快朵颐之时，病从口入。
见招拆招：生菜、生汁中的活性物质与人体接近，可使白血球处于正常状态，还能使因吃熟食而损伤的免疫机能得以恢复。考虑到这些好处，先练好你的肠胃吧。毕竟，吃生食也有吃生食的讲究:
1.每天饮用新鲜蔬菜汁和果汁。2.将新鲜蔬菜凉拌，可酌量加醋，少放盐。
3.人是依靠吃熟食生活而维持生命活动的，先吃水果等生食，然后再吃熟食，不会出现白血球增高的现象。
4.不吃加工食品，如罐头以及添加了防腐剂、色素、化工原料等加工剂的食品。

夺命恶习9：水果当主食
夺命理由：造成人体缺乏蛋白质等物质，营养失衡，甚至引发疾病。
很多办公室一族由于长期静坐的工作方式而造成的消化不畅、血脂增高、血管硬化等疾病，确实需要水果中的营养物质来化解。但是，水果不能当主食。因为水果中虽然含多种维生素和糖分，却缺少人体需要的蛋白质和某些微量元素。
见招拆招：先上网看看你的体质适合吃什么不能吃什么。

夺命恶习10：饮水不足
夺命理由：导致脑老化；诱发脑血管及心血管疾病；影响肾脏代谢功能。
办公室一族在工作中，由于工作时精神高度集中，很容易忘记喝水，造成体内水分补给不足。体内水分减少，血液浓缩及黏稠度增大，容易导致血栓形成，诱发脑血管及心血管疾病，还会影响肾脏代谢的功能。
见招拆招：多喝水，勤上洗手间；但要注意，对于部分大肠代谢功能差的朋友，最好在感到口渴的时候再去喝水，以免造成体内水代谢进一步紊乱。

白领饮食十大夺命恶习- Part 1

大家自我检视一下哦，该改就改哈 :)

夺命恶习1：进食速度过快
夺命理由：加重肠胃负担，导致肥胖。很多办公室一族的午餐，都是在非常匆忙的状态下吃完的。进食速度过快，食物未得到充分咀嚼，不利于口中食物和唾液淀粉酶的初步消化，加重肠胃负担；咀嚼时间过短，迷走神经仍在过度兴奋之中，长此以往，容易因食欲亢进而肥胖。
见招拆招：尽可能让牙齿和舌头动得慢一点，如果真的时间很紧张，那就牺牲一点打牌或者打瞌睡的工夫。

夺命恶习2：不吃早餐
夺命理由：严重伤胃，使你无法精力充沛地工作，而且还容易"显老"。
德国埃朗根大学研究人员在对7000个男女对象的长期跟踪后发现，习惯不吃早餐的人占到了40%，而他们的寿命比其余60％的人平均缩短了2.5岁。而另一所大学在一次对80－90岁老年人的研究中发现，他们长寿的共同点之一是：每天吃一顿丰盛的早餐。
见招拆招：早餐食物尽量做到可口、开胃；有足够的数量和较好的质量；体积小，热能高；制备省时省力。
我们知道，不同食物在胃中停留时间的长短是不一样的，所引起的血糖反应也不相同。在正常情况下干稀混合食物可以在胃中停留4－5个小时，而流质食物由于体积大，刚吃完感觉很饱，但在胃中停留时间很短，其中营养成分来不及充分消化即被排出，上升的血糖水平也很快就低落下来，不能持久。因此，在食物的选择上一定要注意干稀搭配，荤素兼备。

夺命恶习3：晚餐太丰盛
夺命理由：傍晚时血液中胰岛素含量为一天中的高峰，胰岛素可使血糖转化成脂肪被凝结在血管壁上和腹壁上，晚餐吃得太丰盛，久而久之，人便肥胖起来。同时，持续时间通常较长的丰盛晚餐，还会破坏人体正常的生物钟，容易使人患上失眠。
对于上班族来说，晚餐几乎成了一天的正餐。早餐要看"表"，午餐要看"活"，只有到了晚上才能真正放松下来稳坐在餐桌前，美美地大吃一顿。
见招拆招：第一，晚餐要早吃。晚餐早吃可大大降低尿路结石病的发病率。第二，晚餐要素吃。晚餐一定要偏素，以富含碳水化合物的食物为主，尤其应多摄入一些新鲜蔬菜，尽量减少过多的蛋白质、脂肪类食物的摄入。第三，晚餐要少吃。一般要求晚餐所供给的热量以不超过全日膳食总热量的30％。

夺命恶习4：嗜饮咖啡
1.降低受孕率。每天每人喝一杯咖啡，受孕率就有可能下降50%；
2.容易患心脏病。咖啡中含有高浓度的咖啡因，可使心脏功能发生改变并可使血管中的胆固醇增高；
3.降低工作效率。
美国医学家研究发现，一个人每天喝5杯或更多咖啡，其患心脏病的几率比不喝者高两倍，且嗜咖啡年限越长，饮量越多，患心脏病的可能性越大。通过对858位45－69岁首次患心肌梗死的人和同样人数从未患过心肌梗死的人的调查证明，每天喝5杯以上咖啡者患病的危险增加了70％。
见招拆招：少喝。

夺命恶习5：食用酒精过量摄入
夺命理由：大量或经常饮酒，会使肝脏发生酒精中毒而致发炎、肿大，影响生殖、泌尿系统。
见招拆招：要喝就得先学会怎么喝:
最佳品种酒有白酒、啤酒、果酒之分，从健康角度看，当以果酒之一的红葡萄酒为优。法国人少患心脏病即得益于此。据研究人员介绍，常饮红葡萄酒患心脏病的几率会降低一半。
最佳时间每天下午两点以后饮酒较安全。因为上午几个小时，胃中分解酒精的酶-酒精脱氢酶浓度低，饮用等量的酒，较下午更易吸收，使血液中的酒精浓度升高。对肝、脑等器官造成较大伤害。此外，空腹、睡前、感冒或情绪激动时也不宜饮酒，尤其是白酒，以免心血管受害。
最佳饮量一个体重60公斤的人每天允许摄入的酒精量应限制在60克以下。低于60公斤体重者应相应减少，最好掌握在45克左右。换算成各种成品酒应为：60度白酒50克、啤酒1公斤、威士忌250毫升。红葡萄酒虽有益健康，但也不可饮用过量，以每天2至3杯为佳。
最佳佐菜从酒精的代谢规律看，当推高蛋白和含维生素多的食物。如新鲜蔬菜、鲜鱼、瘦肉、豆类、蛋类等。注意，切忌用咸鱼、香肠、腊肉下酒，因为此类熏腊食品含有大量色素与亚硝胺，与酒精发生反应，不仅伤肝，而且损害口腔与食道黏膜，甚至诱发癌症。

To be continued.......

Tadika Seri Berjaya 11th Aniversary Graduation & Concert

Tadika Seri Berjaya 11th Aniversary Graduation & Concert held at Melaka Mall, 7.30 pm on 31st October 2008. This is the first time for Nee Nee & Ling Ling participate in the dancing session. They had done a great job. They dance so well.....Hurray!!!

Cute Little Angels

Hoh...... who are they?? Hehe.....Cute little girls. Playing with my sister's sunglasses.... They are so keen to put on the sunglasses.... Look great. For 1 time enough lo, if not finish the sunglasses.

Sweet time spending at Melaka Eye of River

This is the 2nd trip we went there, but is the 1st time for my hubby... Girls are so excited and very look forward for this trip. They had been keep on asking the father to bring them there ever since the last time I brought them go there together with their grandparents. They are not scared about the height. So happy & excited inside. We take the chance to relax & chit-chat inside. Great time spending there. Nowadays Malacca had changed alot. People said that the night view at Malacca is just like in Paris. I wonder how true is that.. Haha.....

女生的腹部不能亂壓喔‏!!!

很好的資訊,可以多轉寄給身邊的女性朋友哦~

女生的腹部不能亂壓喔!月經來前一個禮拜千萬要保護好肚子國泰醫院婦產科醫師賴宗炫指出，日前一名職業婦女，因工作辛勞到國術館處推拿，結果竟然出現下腹劇烈疼痛狀況。做了內診也照了超音波，才發現是卵巢內黃體破裂惹的禍。賴宗炫強調，在月經前一週，凡是用力點在腹部位置，千萬要用力適宜不能過當。就如同搖呼拉圈、做愛做的事般，或者是大量搖擺的勁歌熱舞。賴宗炫說，在 月經 前一週，黃體大量增加的時候，千萬不要大力壓迫腹部位置，力量過大會造成內出血。
日前一名女性忍著腹部劇烈疼痛跑到醫院急診，這名女性屬於嬌小型，最近覺得工作壓力沈重腰酸背痛，決定跑到國術館處做背部推拿，沒想到推拿後沒多久，竟然肚子大痛，回家後劇痛未獲改善。賴宗炫指出，在急診處做了內診，也照了超音波，這才現發患者大約內出血一百西西，原來問題就出現在卵巢黃體破裂。黃體是婦女卵巢月經週期變化的產物，黃體破裂是婦科常見的急症之一，由於黃體上面有小血管，只要下腹部受到嚴重撞擊，就會使成熟的黃體發生破裂，這時黃體上的血管破裂即形成內出血!如果出血達到三百西西以上，腹部組織即不容易吸收，這時就需要立即縫合止血。這名婦女就是因為接受推拿，剛好時間點是在月經來前一個禮拜，腹部受到劇烈衝擊，結果黃體就這麼破裂，幸好出血量只有一百西西。賴宗炫說，一百西西的血水靠著身體自行吸收即可，大約一個禮拜即可沒事。賴宗炫說明，倘若出現血壓低、心跳快， 血紅素又往下掉，這時緊急應變方法就是開刀止血一途。

男性朋友, 趕快通知所認識的女性朋友吧!!

Great Learning Stage

Great learning stage for this 2 angels!! It had been 2months already for Nee Nee & Ling Ling go to the kindergarten. They had learn alot under a new environment. Nee Nee enjoy learning swimming in the pool. She loves it so much, very look forward for each Tuesday of the week. Whereas Ling Ling don't want to swim. I guess she scared of water. She not really dare to try new things out. Nevermind. Maybe in future, one day, she may be put herself in swimming class. But she loves coloring, singing & dancing. There will be a concert helding at Melaka Mall on 31st October 2008. Now they are having practice in the kindergarten. She'll sing to me at home and dance abit show to me. Haha.... I look forward for this concert. I wonder how they present their dance on the stage. :)

Memorable Gathering on 14/09/08

This is a memorable day. Andrew & Jane's wedding!!! It is also a memorable gathering for all the friends. It had been so long time for me never meet with all the friends. I think about 5years already. Time passed so fast. Most of them are people's wives, stepping into another stage of life. I'm glad I attended the wedding lunch. Everybody looks great. At first, I really a bit nervous. I scared & worried. Worry will there be any problem for me to communicate with all our friends?? Scared I have nothing to talk with all our friends. Hehe..... At last I found that I'd think too much. They all still the same. Friendly, Joyful, Cheerful!!!! This gathering also give me a chance to have a contact back with all the friends, through Facebook, friendster, etc..... It's so great. Friendship Forever!!!!

Are you drinking the right tea?‏

Remember when you free, find me to Hi-tea ~ Are you drinking the right tea?

1. People who use their 'brain' to work or students who study hard day and night. Should drink more Chrysanthemum Tea.

2. People who need a lot of body energy to work or those people whoexercise a lot everyday. Should drink Wu Loong Tea.

3. People who travel on a bike or work in dirty and polluted places. Should drink Green Tea.

4. For people who like to sit down all day long and not do anything,even exercising. Must drink Green Tea and Flower Tea.

5. People who smoke and drink a lot of alcoholic drinks. Should drink more Green Tea.

6. Carnnivore ( i.e. people who must eat meat at least once a day, orfeel sickly). Try to drink some Wu Loong Tea.

7. People who go to the washroom too often or not often enough. Should drink more Honey Tea.

8. People with high cholesterol and high blood pressure. Wu Loong Tea, Green Tea.

9. Those who work with computers everyday. Need to drink a Lot of Tea (any tea will do). Whenever you are working with the computer, you should make some tea,drin k it when you are free. Drinking Tea is healthy, it can protect and prevent the harmfulUltraviolet light from harming us (when using computer). Furthermore, it can also cure us when we are tired and help making ourbody feel fresh again.

獻給所有未婚，將要結婚，和已婚的好朋友!!‏

Great story to share with all my dear friends. Take some time to have a read, it's meaningful.

大家要看喔!很发人省思.

我的母亲是个非常好的人，自小，我就看到她努力地维持一个家。她总是在清晨五时起床，煮一锅热腾腾的稀饭给父亲吃，因为父亲胃不好，早餐只能吃稀饭。然後，还要煮一锅乾饭给孩子吃，因为孩子正在发育， 需要吃乾饭，上学一天才不会饿。每个星期，母亲会把榻榻米搬出去晒，晒出暖暖的太阳香。每天下午，母亲总是弯着腰，刷着锅子， 我们家的锅子每一个都可以当镜子用，完全没有一点污垢。 晚上，她努力蹲在地上擦地板，一寸一寸仔细地擦拭， 家里的地板比别人家的床头还乾净，打着赤脚也找不到一丝灰尘。

我母亲是个认真辛劳的好女人。然而，在我父亲的眼中，她却不是一个好伴侣。我成长过程中，父亲不只一次地表示他在婚姻中的孤单，不被了解。我的父亲是个负责的男人。他不抽烟、不喝酒，工作认真，每天准时上下班，暑假还安排功课表，安排孩子们的作息，他是个尽责的父亲，督促孩子在功课上有所成就。他喜欢下棋、写书法，沉浸在古书的世界。我的父亲是个好男人，在孩子们眼中，他就像天一样大，保护我们、教育我们。只是，在我母亲的眼中，他也不是一个好伴侣， 我成长的过程中，我经常看到母亲在院子的角落中，暗暗无声地掉泪。父亲用语言，母亲用行动，表达了他们在婚姻中所面对的痛苦。成长的过程中，我看到、也听到父亲与母亲在婚姻中的无奈，也看到、感受到他们是如此好的男人与女人，他们值得一椿好婚姻。可惜的是，父亲在世的岁月中，他们彼此的婚姻生活都在挫折中度过，而我，也一直在困惑中成长，我问自己：「两个好人为什麽没有好的婚姻？」

我长大後，进入婚姻，渐渐了解这个问题的答案。

在婚姻的初期，我就像母亲一样，努力持家，努力地刷锅子、擦地板，认真地为自己的婚姻而努力。奇怪的是，我不快乐；看看我的先生，似乎他也不快乐。我心中想，大概是地板不够乾净，饭菜烧得不够好，於是， 我更努力擦地板，用心做饭。 似乎，我们两个人还是不快乐。

直到有一天，我正忙着擦地板时，先生说：「老婆，来陪我听一下音乐！」我不悦地说：「没看到还有一大半的地方没有擦！」这句话一说出口，我呆住了，好熟悉的一句话，在我父亲母亲的婚姻中，母亲也经常这样对父亲说。 我正在重演父母亲的婚姻，也重复他们在婚姻中的不快乐。有一些领悟出现在我的心中。 「你要的是？」我停下手边的工作，看着先生，想到我父亲.....他一直在婚姻中得不到他要的陪伴，母亲刷锅子的时间都比陪他的时间长。不断地做家事，是母亲维持婚姻的方法，她给父亲一个乾净的家，却从未陪伴他，她忙着做家事，她用她的方法在爱父亲，这个方法是「做家事」。

而我，我也用我的方法在爱着我的先生。我的方法也是母亲的方法，我的婚姻好像也在走向同一个故事「两个好人却没有好婚姻。」 我的领悟使我做了不一样的选择。停下手边的工作，坐到先生的身边，陪他听音乐， 远远地看着地上擦地板的抹布，像是看着母亲的命运。我问先生：「你需要什麽？」「我需要陪我听听音乐，家里脏一点没关系呀，以後帮请个佣人，就可以陪我了！」先生说。「我以为你需要家里乾净，有人煮饭给你吃，有人为你洗衣服.....」我一口气说了一串应该是他需要的事。「那些都是次要的呀！」先生说。「我最希望陪陪我。」 原来我作了许多白工，这个结果实在令我大吃一惊。我们继续分享彼此的需要，才发现他也做了不少白工，我们都用自己的方式在爱对方，而不是对方的方式。

幸福的路径: 自此以後，我列了一张先生的需要表，把它放在书桌前，他也列了一张我的需求表，放在他的书桌前。洋洋十几项的需求，像是有空陪对方听音乐、有机会抱抱对方、每天早上kiss拜拜。有些项目比较容易做到，有些项目比较难，像是「听我说话，不要给建议。」这是先生的需要。如果我给他建议，他说他会觉得自己像笨蛋。我想，这真是男人的面子问题。我也学着不给建议，除非他问我，否则我就只是倾听，顺服到底，连走错路时也一样。这对我实在是一条不容易学习的路，不过，比擦地板要轻松多了，而我们在需求的满足中，婚姻也愈来愈有活力。

在我累的时候，我就选择一些容易的项目做，像是「放一首放松音乐」，自己有力气的时候就规划「一次外地旅游」这样的事情。 有趣的是，「到植物园散步」是我们的共同项目、共同需求，每次婚姻有争吵，去到植物园，总能安慰彼此的心灵。其实，这也可想而知，原本我们就是因为对植物园的喜爱而相知相惜，一起走入婚姻，回到园子就会回到多年前彼此相爱的心情。

问对方：「你要什麽？」这句话开启了婚姻另一个幸福之路。两个好人终於走上幸福之路。 现在，我也知道父母亲的婚姻为何无法幸福，他们都太执着用「自己」的方法爱对方，而不是用「对方」的方式爱另一半。自己累得半死，对方还感受不到，最後面对婚姻的期待，也就灰心而死了。既然上帝创造婚姻，我想，每个人都值得拥有一个好婚姻， 既然上帝创造婚姻，我想，每个人都值得拥有一个好婚姻， 只要方法用对，作「对方要的！」而非自己「想给的！」好婚姻，绝对是可预期的。

Busy Working Life

This month is a busy working life. My collegue - Florence is on leave for about 1-2 mths. She went for fibroid operation last week (end of August). Already 1week. Now left 2 person only working in the office. Everyday working nonstop in the office. Time pass so fast. Work, work, work..... By end of the day, myself & my the other collegue feel so tired. We know that this is for temporarily case. Just that after busy working the whole day, our body feel so tired. Now that Florence is at home having her rest. Still don't know how long is her MC. We certainly hope that she can recover soon by taking good & enough rest within this 1 month MC. On the other hand, when she comes back, our working life can go back to normal. Hehehe......

Good Advice for working people

以下是探討這類觀點的專家所提供的一些工作原則，不妨做為參考：

原則 1：工作真的只是一份工作 不要期待工作與生活能兼顧，事實上也沒幾個人能將工作與生活成功的整合起來，工作並不是生活，我們工作是為了要過生活，或保有自己所喜歡的生活。 想想看，你一天或一個禮拜能有多少時間和家人相處，或和親朋好友去做一些你喜歡做的事，就可以知道要兼顧工作與生活是不可能的。工作只是工作，目的是為了賺錢。

原則 2 ：不要害怕換工作 工作既是為了賺錢，只要可能賺更多錢，或做起來更愉快、更有滿足慼，何妨就換工作？而且，以這樣的原則換工作，收入當然會越換越多，跳槽可能也會變得稀鬆平常。只要每次工作時都全力以赴，有稱職的表現，對雇主和業界都能交代，應該隨時可以找到下一個工作的機會。

原則 3：一鳥在手勝過十鳥在林 很多公司都聲稱他們有優渥的福利制度，包括退休金計劃。可是不斷有事實告訴我們，越來越多的人在屆滿退休之前就失去工作了。所以爭取眼前的福利可能更實際，比較值得期待，例如包括健康醫療保障在內的團體保險、托嬰照顧、親職休假、績效獎金的分發，增加加班費或年終獎金等等。

原則 4：謀生本事不厭其多 新世紀的工作與收入可能會變得不穩定，產業的興衰或輪替也會變得快速無比，在同一家企業內辛苦一輩子可能會以失業收場。所以橫向拓展各方面的技能，會比縱向的在企業的組織內向上攀爬追求位高權重還要實際。其實現在已有不少企業也『學會』了一些聰明的技巧，對授予好聽的高階職位並不吝惜，可以讓你擁有耀眼的頭銜，但對薪資增加並沒有多大幫助。與其追求這種虛名，不如讓自己能具備十八般武藝可以多方面賺錢，隨時跳槽。

原則 5 ：做好份內工作就回家去 再提醒你，工作只是工作，公司少了你一個人的工作，照樣可以運轉下去。踏實的學習你的工作所該具備的技能，努力做好你的工作，但不要奢望你可以憑一己之力多為公司創造多少業績或產能。不要因此耗掉你大量的私人時 間，讓自己從生活 中抽離出來。記住，做好自己份內的工作，然後回家去。

原則 6：遠離辦公室政治 你工作的目的是為賺取合理的收入，而不是追求虛名與權位，所以不用在心思在辦公室政治上。當紅炸子雞可能因改朝換代而去職走路，被冰凍的失志衰老也可能鹹魚翻身。與其耗費時間介入這些無實際意義的辦公室鬥爭，不如多花時間在自己的家庭。

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married‏

Marriage is another stage of life. Another stage where a couple start another new life & learn to live together. 2 different world of person, different of mind, different of lifestyle.... can be together is a kind of luck. We must appreciate for each other and learn to accept. Somebody cannot change another person but somebody can learn to accept. Nice article to share with my friends:

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyedby my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me forseveral weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me torecall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.

Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain.

From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.

I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this womancarefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. Itbecame easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office, jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished.

Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: 'I'll carry you out every morning until death does us apart'

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken.

We teach some by what we say we teach some more by what we do.But we teach most by what we are. You don't get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.

Remember: People will forget what you said ...people will forget what you did ...But people will never forget how you made them feel....

'You Have to Learn Lessons Also from Others Mistakes because you will Not Get Time to Do All the Mistakes on Your Own'

感激不盡 與 視而不見‏

Things come and go. Only our parents will always be at our side to give us support & cheers. Children are the jewellery to the parents. Being a mother make me understand more the role as a parent. Parents will always put their kids in the first place, ever since baby's time until they grow up. Nice article to share with all my friends.

『感激不盡』與『視而不見』
陌生人請一碗麵，我都那麼感激，而我媽一個人辛苦地養我，煮了二十多年的麵和飯給我吃，我怎麼沒有感激她呢？別人給予一點小惠，你就「感激不盡」，卻對親人，父母的一輩子恩情「視而不見」！
那晚，佳芬跟媽媽吵架之後，什麼都沒帶，就隻身往外跑。可是，走了一段路，佳芬發現，她身上竟然一毛都沒帶，連打電話銅板也沒有！她走著走著肚子餓了，看到前面有個麵攤，香噴噴的，好想吃！可是，她沒錢！過一陣子後，麵攤老闆看到佳芬還站在那邊，久久沒離去，就問：「小姐，請問妳是不是要吃麵？」「可是．．．可是我忘了帶錢．．」佳芬不好意思地回答。麵攤老闆熱心地說：「沒關係，我可以請妳吃ㄚ！」「來，我下碗餛飩麵給妳吃！
不久，老闆端來麵和一些小菜。> 佳芬吃了幾口，竟然掉下眼淚來。「小姐，妳怎麼ㄌㄚ？」老闆問。「沒有ㄌㄚ，我只是很感激！」佳芬擦著淚水，對老闆說道：「你是陌生人，我們又不認識，　只不過在路上看到我，就對我這麼好，願意煮麵給我吃！可是..我自己的媽媽，我跟她吵架，她竟然把我趕出來，　還叫我不要再回去！」「你是陌生人都能對我這麼好，而我自己的媽媽，　竟然對我這麼絕情！」老闆聽了，委婉地說道：「小姐ㄚ，妳這麼會這樣想呢！妳想想看，我只不過煮一碗麵給妳吃，妳就這麼感激我，妳媽媽煮了十多年的麵和飯給妳吃，妳怎麼不會感激她呢？妳怎麼還要跟她吵架?」
佳芬一聽，整個人楞住了！是ㄚ！陌生人的一碗麵，我都那麼感激，而我媽一個人辛苦地養我，也煮了二十多年的麵和飯給我吃，我怎麼沒有感激她呢？而且，只為了小小的事，就和媽媽大吵一架。匆匆吃完麵後，佳芬鼓起勇氣，往家的方向走，她好想真心地對媽說:「媽，對不> 起，我錯了！」當佳芬走到家巷口時，看到疲憊、著急的母親，已經在四處地張望 ..........看到佳芬時，媽媽就先開口說：「阿芬ㄚ，趕快回家吧！我飯都已經煮好，　妳再不趕快回來吃，菜都涼了！」此時，佳芬的眼淚，又不爭氣地掉了下來！。
有時候，我們會對別人給予小惠「感激不盡」，卻對親人，父母的一輩子恩情「視而不見」！
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Nice Article

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more and Demand less.
5. Expect miracles in life.

No one can go back and make a brand new start.
Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but he did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.
Disappointments are like road bumps, they slow you down a bit but you will enjoy the smooth roads afterwards. Don’t stay on the bump too long. Move on!
When you feel down when you didn’t get what you want, just sit tight and be happy because God has taught of something better to give you.
When something happen to you, good or bad, consider what it means.
There’s a purpose to life events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.
You can’t make someone love you. All you can do is to be someone who can be loved; the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.
It is better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of pride.
We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.
Never abandon an old friend. You will never find one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better when it grows older.

Knowledge ~ 帶孩子的方式.

Recently read a mail on knowledge of taking care of kids. Taking care of children really is a challenging job. Need alot alot of patient and creativity. Children are full of curiosity. Because of this, they learn in the same time growing up. We as the parents, sometimes really very hard to understand what is in a child's mind. We want to correct them in the sense that we think that our way is the best for them. But they might not think the same. So, parents had to accept their way and slowly correct them from there. Huh!! Challenging man!! Not really easy to do it...but have to.... I would like to share this article i read with all my frens, happy taking care of children. Gambateh!!!

帶孩子要用沒有效率的方式！

侯文詠的孩子，有一次考試考壞了，那次是全班都考差了，同學都很擔心，不知道該如何向父母大人們交代。這時，侯文詠的孩子說：「我爸一定會說，我很高興你今天失敗了。」

同學疑惑的問：「怎麼會這樣？」侯文詠的孩子回答：「我爸就是怪ㄎㄚ啊！」我想，當時侯文詠的孩子在回答這句話時，嘴角和眉梢一定都是上揚的。其實，著名作家和麻醉科副教授侯文詠說，他對孩子並不是沒有期待，並不是不會焦慮或不會生氣。只是，他相信每個人都希望自己能表現良好、受到讚賞。因此，考試沒考好時，孩子一定已經很難過了，這時，做父母的除了安慰他之外，實在不需要再做什麼。

不過，侯文詠也不是一開始就能這麼看得開、放得下。他記得，第一次發現孩子說謊時，又焦急又生氣。但他的母親只是淡淡的告訴他：「你小時候也騙過人哪！」於是，他想起自己一路長大，父母教養他的情景。他們從不張牙舞爪，嚴聲厲色。他們只是一直站在孩子身後，支持他、信任他。有一次，孩子學校校車停開。侯文詠想，從學校走到家裡不過十幾分鐘，自己還用車接送他來去多次，他應該認得路，於是要孩子放學後自己走路回家。沒想到，一個多鐘頭過去了，孩子還沒到家。

侯文詠急忙出門尋找，發現孩子走錯路了。侯文詠這才恍然大悟：「平時你帶他走的路都不算，他從沒有真正會過！」於是，侯文詠開車載孩子回到學校，讓孩子帶領自己，走一遍他認為正確的路線。每到一個岔路，侯文詠就請孩子談談他決定直走或左右轉的原因。最後，侯文詠再帶他走一遍自己覺得最近的路線。在這段旅程中，沒有打罵嘲諷，只有窩心的分享和探險的樂趣。侯文詠也清楚記得，他曾經為了培養兩個孩子的閱讀興趣，以及增長他們的知識，要求他們看歷史書。沒想到，孩子反而不喜歡看書了。侯文詠發現情形不對，及時放手，讓孩子選擇自己愛看的書，包括漫畫。結果，現在就讀國二的大兒子從《哈利波特》開始，已經會自動去找文字的書籍來閱讀。五年級的二兒子為了看《向達倫大冒險》，連英文版也願意一邊查字典一邊看。
點點滴滴的累積，讓侯文詠深刻體會到，人的成長沒有捷徑。任何技能或行為規範的學習都必須經過不斷的摸索和重複的練習。在這過程中，打罵、命令或要求，或許看起來有效，但都是表面、騙人的。「『熱情』才是帶領孩子前進最好的力量。」侯文詠說：「孩子天生就好奇、有熱情。父母根本不必急著站在前面指路，反而應該跟在後面觀察，看到孩子熱情湧現，及時提供機會和幫助就可以了！」「東西的成熟有一定的時間和過程，必須耐心陪伴、等待。
「帶孩子絕對不能講效率，要用『沒有效率的方式』，孩子才能紮實的長大！」侯文詠用這句話寫下句點。

New Look for a New Start

New Look for a New Start... Ever since last time, i've been decided to cut the kids' hair. Their hair is too long for them. Everytime playing around make them so hot. Finally, after they discover from the mouth-hand-leg deseases, i manage to persuade the father to let me bring them for a hair cut. Hmm....is the father who bring them to the hair saloon. They look fresh & cute with the new hair look. Haha.... This also make me free to tie their hair up. Hehehe..... if not with the long hair, everytime sure have to spend some time to tie their hair. Now, just with a change of dresses will do. Make things easy.... make me easy too....

Olympic 2008 - Malaysia Medal Hope

Today 11:30am, Lee Chong Wei will meet Sony Dwi Kuncoro from Indonesia in Men's singles Quaterfinal 4. Can Chong Wei beat Sony Dwi Kuncoro to go into Men's singles Semifinal to give Malaysia a medal hope in this China Olympic 2008 ?? Lets give him a cheers ><

Lets click below to see the final results

http://results.beijing2008.cn/WRM/ENG/Schedule/BD_2008-08-14.shtml

6th August 2008

Dear all,

Ever since the last post, i have been stop using my blog for quite sometimes. Now come back again. Sometimes really abit busy, sometimes because lazy, and sometimes........... hehehe....seems like got alot of excuses for this. Now already month of August 2008. Time really passed so fast. Just one eye clip, half a year gone.

Recently the 2 kids not feeling well. Not because of fever or flue or cough, because of mouth-hand-leg deseases. It just came like that without any notification to me. Get a shock Nee Nee's mouth full of ulser. That make her so pain. Can't take any food, only water or little milk. Slowly red dots appear on her hand & leg and even her buttock. For few days she never take much food. Even her favourite Hot Dog Bread also can't insist her to eat. Doctor said this have to take 1 week to recover. The whole week is her "birthday", because Doctor said she can only take cold food, i.e Vitagen, Ice-cream, Yogurt, etc. Luckily hers not that seriuos until have to admit hospital. She take abt 4 - 5days to recover. Now her mouth is ok already, keep on searching for food.

This deseases can spread. Thus, the next few days, Ling Ling's turn. No fever. One night bed time, suddenly she told me: Mummy, my mouth pain. Aiyoo!!! i jump up and on the light to check her mouth. Nothing. No ulser on the mouth, no red dots on the hand & leg. The next day, red dots come out. But very little. No ulser in the mouth. Luckily she still asking for food on & off. This minute asking for biscuits, later on ask for milo.... We all so worry if she kena the same as Nee Nee, we really want to faint. This girl give problem when we wan to give her any medicine. She only choose for those she like. Headache!!! Luckily now is ok already.

Now that the kids get this deseases, totally cannot go to school. I just change a new kindergarten at Bkt Beruang for Nee Nee & Ling Ling. Only go for 2days, then off because of the deseases. Hope they can return back to school by next week.

2008 鼠年。。发！发！发

Chinese New Year 2008 - Chinese Horoscope

Received this from my fren. Just go through it and get some info abt my horoscope for year 2008. Overall not bad....I guess.... This year Rooster 犯太岁. Hehehe....myself duno abt this thing until my sister remind me. So, last week went to 观音亭拜拜. So long time never been there already. My wish for the new year: hope that everything goes smooth & steady. All my beloved one stay healthy & happy. My Angels growth healthy & prettier...Hehehe....... Wish all my friends: Happy Chinese New Year 2008; 恭喜发财;万事如意;合家安康;财源滚滚来! 新年快乐...

Happy New Year 2008

A New Year, A New Start, A New Chapter, A New Beginning .....Forget the 'BAD', Cherish the 'GOOD' .....HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008.

New Year 2008, time passed so fast. Very Fast....First day of the year, I spend my day with my girls together with my parents, without the father present. This year is the first year which we celebrate the new year on ourselves as the father is now working outstation. Hehe...Sound sad! But not really that bad. Early in the morning went to my parents' house. Spend some luxurious time there the whole day.

Mum ask aunty to get Chinese New Year dress for my 2 girls...Whooh...See them so nice and pretty with the new dress on. Red..Red...Suitable for CNY Wear....Look forward Chinese New Year 2008. This year is my father's turn to do the 'Ang Family' gathering dinner. Dad is going to held the gathering at night as uncle & aunty they all can have the gathering with beer/wine drinks. Hahaha....Plus night time not so hot. Great!!! Look forward for that day....